So. There are people out there that don’t like the Church or have grudges against it … The discipline of LDS! I don’t get it. Sorry.

Let’s take your example of the woman having a baby out of wedlock. If you’re a Bishop, you sometimes ask to meet with people who are struggling. So, you make an appointment with them (if they accept) and you talk about things – either at their home or at the church. You do your best to show them you love them and help them make good choices.

Oh, the discipline of the LDS!

People who sin aren’t excommunicated; people who fight against the church are. Think about it like a soccer team. You don’t have to be good at soccer to be on the team. You don’t even have to try to help your team succeed. All you have to do is not try to help the other team score goals.

The discipline! The discipline!

If you choose to get married in the temple, you know who will be able to go and who won’t. If there’s someone who doesn’t have a temple recommend who you really want to be at your wedding, then get married outside the temple in a traditional wedding and then later go to the temple to get sealed. Or, get sealed and then have a ring ceremony where everyone can attend. You can even hold it in an LDS chapel (for free).

The LDS and their discipline!

You’re trying to cobble together negative Internet whispers, a handful of experiences from disgruntled former members, and your anti-religion inclinations into a coherent picture of what the Church is like … and you’re failing. If you want to start discussing the Church in an informed manner, you’re going to have to put some time into real study or experience.