You do your best to show them you love them and help them make good choices.
That is not how she described the meeting.
If you choose to get married in the temple, you know who will be able to go and who won’t. If there’s someone who doesn’t have a temple recommend who you really want to be at your wedding, then get married outside the temple in a traditional wedding and then later go to the temple to get sealed. Or, get sealed and then have a ring ceremony where everyone can attend. You can even hold it in an LDS chapel (for free).
It was her mother for Heck’s sake. How would it hurt the church to let her be there? The point was clearly to hurt the mother.
Since you find it so strange, why don’t you try Googling “LDS discipline.” It is certainly not an unknown expression, on the contrary, it is a term used by LDS spokespersons..
It gets pretty silly.
This guy faced a disciplinary hearing for making a shirtless calendar
_*Church spokeswoman Kim Farah* declined to comment on Hardy’s specific situation, but said that “any church discipline is the result of actions not beliefs.” Decisions are made at the local level and are based on individual circumstances and merits, she said.
Members have been excommunicated for reasons including criminal activity and scholarly works of history or theology that contradicted church claims.
Then there is Informal Discipline
If you are gay or lesbian and your bishop knows it, you may have already encountered the Church’s system of informal discipline. As part of this system, a bishop may suspend your right to partake of the sacrament, hold a Church position, exercise the priesthood, or enter the temple. Thus, informal discipline allows a bishop to punish a member without holding a “disciplinary council” (a church court). According to church policies, a bishop can apply informal discipline to a person who confesses voluntarily, who commits the fault for the first time, who has not violated temple covenants, and whose situation has significant mitigating circumstances.
In the case of gays and lesbians, informal discipline works only for those who are willing to abandon their homosexuality. Through a program of frequent interviews, the bishop could attempt to control the most personal and intimate aspects of your daily life. He may ask you if you masturbate, if you have sexual fantasies, or if you are sexually active. He may suggest or require that you participate in some “ex-gay” group such as Evergreen. More dangerously, he may suggest or require that you undergo some form of so-called “reparative” or “conversion” therapy. Some bishops will even offer to pay for this therapy.
It was her mother for Heck’s sake.
For heck’s sake? Now you’re finally getting what Mormonism is all about.
How would it hurt the church to let her be there?
Letting anyone in who wants to come in defeats the purpose of having the temple in the first place.
You didn’t address that the decisions of the bride/groom and mother play just as big a role in the situation as the Church’s policy. And you didn’t acknowledge they have the options I described that would completely rectify the situation.
You’re trying so hard to make it seem like the Church is abusing this poor mother and it just doesn’t add up.
The point was clearly to hurt the mother.
Yes, actually the Discipline of the LDS hates mothers. The lot of them.
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